You’re Still Here – So Stay Strong
Have you ever come to a point that people you had faith in disappointed you so badly that you felt emotionally crushed? Well I did, once. Some time back, I almost fell into the arms of depression. Why?
I am the kind of person who likes to meet new people and make friends. I enjoy the company of friends. Out of all these friends, I have a special group whom I can refer to as my reaally close friends. People who have a place in my heart and I believe I can trust to have my back.
And when you have so much faith in someone, nothing hurts more than when they are the very ones who betray and let you down.
I’m not saying I’m a perfect person but I try my very best for my friends and family. If there are sacrifices to be made, I make them (but of course, I take time for myself too). I try not to let anyone down (unless I have to). And even when we are separated by some physical distance, we are never separated at heart.
But apparently, that wasn’t enough for some of these friends. Because when I needed their support the most, they left me hanging.
As expected, I was crushed and tried everything I could to save our friendship – regardless of my disappointment. But all my efforts were flung aside and their actions showed me they had no interest in retaining it.
With a heavy heart, I let go. As time passed over this fresh wound, my sorrow slowly gave way to anger. Fury at my being incapable of maintaining my connections; fury at they being so heartless. Until eventually, I started to make my way towards depression.
It was during this same period that my renewed self-confidence was tried and tested. I just didn’t have the strength to move on from the blow.
Finding Emotional Strength
And in all this, I will never forget that one friend (now my bestie) who stood alongside my family in encouraging me. Nessa stuck with me even when I became an irritable mess. She did her very best to cheer me up and help me jump out of that ditch.
In life, people come and go all the time. And only a select few stay. And those few are the ones worth your time and effort. Nessa, you are the epitome of a true friend – reliable, trustworthy and caring. And for that I love you, crazy girl. 😛 🙂
My Advice To You
If you ever find yourself in an emotional ditch, here are some tips you can follow to bounce back.
- Surround yourself with your family and loved ones
- Surround yourself with positive minded individuals – they’ll lift you up
- Understand that it’s not the end of the road and that staying STRONG is your best option.
- Do not let your mind dwell on the negativity of the circumstance.
- SMILE – you have no idea the wonders of this fella. By continuously smiling, you’re tricking your mind and body into being happy. 😀 😀
To My Dear Friends,…
This goes to all those friends of mine whom I referred to above. I know you will eventually read this post some day. I have three things to tell you:
1. I forgive you
I hold nothing against you. Yes, if we tried to revive the relationship we once had, things would never be the same. Because you’ll find that I’m a completely different person. However, I’m no longer mad at you.
2. Thank you
If you guys hadn’t messed up big time, I wouldn’t be where I am today. Also, your actions opened my eyes to new horizons (as explained above).
3. Be careful
I was able to get out of the emotional ditch I was in. Most likely because of the friends and family who helped me out. However, I’d advise you to work on yourselves. You’ll meet a lot of others in future. And you can’t go about causing havoc and leaving your “victims” to pick up their pieces.
Friendship is a commitment and a lot of people take it seriously. If you’re uncertain as to how willing you are to commit, don’t bother to offer yourself as a friend.
Do not be quick to agree to something you don’t have the slightest bit of conviction that you can carry it out. That’s sort of what Paul describes in 2 Corinthians 1:17:
…Do you think I talk out of both sides of my mouth—a glib yes one moment, a glib no the next? Well, you’re wrong. I try to be as true to my word as God is to his. Our word to you wasn’t a careless yes canceled by an indifferent no…
Think before you act.
Shout out to my fellow collaborators:
- Addison D’Marko: Finding Strength
- Ajibola Sunday: My Innate Strength is my Impeccable Courage
- Tajwar Fatma: Takes strength to be a person of substance
- Ipuna Black: Strength: Single Parents
- Nicolle K.: Defining My View of Strength
- Jothish Joseph: The Power of mental strength!
- Barb Caffrey: What Is Strength?
- Sonyo Estavillo: Finding Strength In Death: The Mohamed Bzeek Story
- Mylene Orillo: 5 Important Lessons on Strength in Difficult Times
- Camilla Motte: Finding Strength through witnessing Physical Abuse
- Manal Ahmad: Strength