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Many people who make suicidal attempts these days do so as a result of mockery. I’ve heard murmurings about this fact (and the effects of bullying in general) over the years. Some of which include:
“Why would you go to the extent of trying to kill yourself just because your friends don’t like you?”
“They don’t want to hang out with you, don’t be bothered. It’s their loss. Why try to end it all?”
“If they make fun of you, simply don’t let it get to you. Because it does you no good to keep holding on.”
However, despite whatever opinions you have, you must learn to think of the consequences (good or bad) before you take any action.
Consider this situation:
There was once an energetic teenage boy. I’ll call him James. He was someone people loved to pick on a lot. And he had few people who were willing to stand up for him. Hence, James was bullied and became the laughing stock of almost every school he attended. There were occasions when he’d go home with bruises and swollen black eyes.
This was a normal occurrence for majority of his secondary school years. Over the years, he became spiteful and filled with hatred. The bullying continued but this time, he fought back – he wasn’t the only one bruised in the end. Time passed and the hatred in him grew more and more.
“No two people react in the same way when mocked. Just because I can handle it, doesn’t mean someone else can.
Until one day, he came across one of his junior year “bullies” who came to ask for forgiveness – obviously regretting his past actions. James was so filled with hatred that he laid aside the boy’s apology and vented all his past and current rage upon him. Had it not been for a patrol officer who happened to be passing by, James would have killed him.
“Your response to mockery is silence or indifference. And someone else’s is a self-triggered gunshot to the head.”
Oddly enough, James found “satisfaction” in his actions. After spending some time in prison to pay for his crime, he went wild. If he didn’t like you, he killed you. When you got in his way, you were a goner. And if you were willing to pay him, he’ll kill for you. As a result, He raced through life leaving a trail of dead bodies in his wake. He was a serial killer. The real James was dead and in his body dwelt a heartless monster.
This is a true story.
Reducing The Effects Of Bullying
Would his case have been different if someone had been brave enough to stand up for him? Brave enough to stand against the injustice done against James through bullying? If someone had been able to befriend him… show him love and encourage him?
Wonder how James’ story ends? I’ll tell you.
He was arrested after fifteen years of “professional” killing. And sentenced to ‘death by the firing squad’. You can imagine the pain his mother went through. How tearful she was as she watched those bullets tear into the flesh of her only son. Yes, he committed all those heinous crimes but he was her light… her world. I bet she could still see that loving young child he once was in him.
I’m sure he might have gone to Hell. Thus, I’m certain he may never have got to know God. Many of you would comment that he deserves it. I neither agree nor disagree with you.
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Food For Thought in line to Bullying and its Consequences
Instead, I’ll ask you to consider these things:
- How do you think the families of all his victims were affected? Place yourselves in their shoes. Imagine you just phoned your only child at college the night before only to receive the news of his/ her death the next morning. I bet you’d feel as though your heart has been wrenched out of you when you see the headlines – “Youth Slain In Brawl”.
But this is the case it’s not only their children being murdered but their fathers, mothers, brothers, sisters, husbands and wives. If that’s how you would have felt, imagine how they did.
- How often do you communicate with your kids? With your family? And your spouses? You are a family for crying out loud. Learn to communicate with each other. Find out how the day went… help each other solve issues. Perhaps the first few times you tried, no one opened up. But keep trying, they will (they are just not used to it).
By doing this, you are sending a message across that “If you’ll ever need me, I’m here for you”. Maybe if James’ mother had practiced this often, he would have turned out differently.
James was a bright kid with an equally bright future. However, his future was destroyed by people’s act of indifference to the bullying inflicted upon him.
One Final Note on the Bullying Issues Effects
Supposing he was to grow up to be a very successful surgeon, imagine the number of lives he could have helped save. Now, look at how his life turned out. Consider how many lives were lost – both those he could have saved and those he murdered.
There’s a vast imbalance. So much more dead. And a larger number of families affected or destroyed. Yet, it all began with a tiny seed of inhumane bullying.
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