Before I start, I’d like to introduce my guest for today – JART (short for “just a random teen”). He’ll be here with me in this particular presentation. That being said, let’s begin.
One way in which our generation of teens is influenced is through interaction with their peers. They spend so much time with their peers that it’s easy to be influenced. During school hours, after school activities, weekend hangout sessions, discussions over phone calls, etc. are all examples of times when teens interact with their peers.
JART: So does that mean that something as simple as talking with a friend can influence me? 😰
Errr. Not necessarily. It depends on the pressure created by the interaction. Let say you have ten friends. Eight out of ten believe soccer is the best sport ever whereas the other two opt for basketball. You, being a newbie at sport, would most likely be influenced by the choice of the majority. This is what I think everyone refers to as “peer pressure”
JART: Oh I see. Alright then. Proceed. 😁
Hmm. Where was I? 🤔🤔 Oh yes.
So, as I was saying, teens learn from their peers but also use them as a sort of practicing board. There are two main ways a teen can be influenced – GOOD 😇 or BAD 😈. He/she can either be inspired to do something good or pick up bad habits and abusive behavior.
JART: What is abuse?
To abuse means to treat with cruelty or violence repeatedly. Hence, abuse would be the cruel or violent treatment of a person or animal. There are various types of abuse but the four most common ones are:
- Sexual Abuse
- Physical Abuse
- Mental/Psychological Abuse
- And finally, the focus of this talk, emotional/verbal abuse.
What is Verbal Abuse?
“Verbal abuse (also known as reviling or “verbal bullying”) is described as a negative defining statement told to the victim or about the victim, or by withholding any response, thereby defining the target as non-existent.”
When asked to define verbal abuse, a psychologist who specializes in relationships and trauma stated:
“It is a chronic verbal interaction that’s not wanted and makes the victim feel a kind of emotional harm.”
He went on to explain that it is typically from a close relation such as a partner, close friend or family member.”
Recognizing Verbal Abuse
JART: So what is verbal abuse?
I don’t think you have been paying close attention, JART. I already answered that question above.
JART: No. I mean, how does one go about recognizing verbal abuse?
Well, that’s easy. Verbal abuse comes in so many forms that someone might not even be aware that they have been easy. Hence, the best way you can recognize verbal abuse is by educating yourself on its types.
For example, did you know that that threatening behavior such as a strangling motion directed at someone falls under verbal abuse?
JART: How’s that possible? I didn’t even say a word! 😱😱
That’s right. However, that motion can easily be interpreted as you trying to say – “I want to choke you”. It’s similar to how blatantly raising your middle finger at someone is interpreted as a cuss. Or supposing someone flicks open a knife and advances towards you, the words “I’m in danger” instantly flashes through your mind.
JART: Oh. I get it now. Wow, I never knew that before! Tell me more.
Well, you can find more examples of verbal abuse in the PDF – Types Of Verbal Abuse.
Closing Remarks On Verbal Abuse
Is there any final question you want to ask?
JART: Yes. Is verbal abuse worse than physical abuse?
According to Dr. Jay Grady, author of “You Are A Door Prize Not A Doormat“, the answer to that question is YES! With millions of hurting people as a result of verbal abuse, especially women, Dr. Jay emphasizes on how now is the right time to spread an awareness of the seriousness of the problem.
He introduces a therapeutic model termed as “Word Therapy”, which is used to assist victims of verbal abuse on their journey to emotional, physical, and spiritual healing.
“I know this book will do a lot of good for hurting people.”
Dodie Osteen–Lakewood Church.
So if you happen to be someone who has been a victim of verbal abuse, “You are a Door Prize, Not a Doormat is a must-read book for you.
JART: I think I’ll change my name to Jaret.
Ha ha. 😂😂 Why is that?
JARET: Because now, I’m Just A Random Educated Teen. 😏😏