STRESS MANAGEMENT

STRESS MANAGEMENT IN A RELATIONSHIP – SIGNS AND CAUSES

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STRESS IS AN ASPECT OF LIFE THAT COUPLES ENCOUNTER, IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS, NOW AND THEN. FROM THE PRESSURES OF BILLS PAYMENTS, OR FAMILY MEMBERS WITH HEALTH PROBLEMS, TO THE DISTRACTIONS OF HAVING VARIOUS ACTIVITIES, STRESS MANAGEMENT SKILLS ARE INVALUABLE TOOLS TO HAVING, AND MAINTAINING, A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP.

ACCORDING TO USA TODAY, AS MUCH AS 98 PERCENT OF AMERICAN ADULTS REPORT EXPERIENCING SOME FORM OF STRESS ON A REGULAR BASIS.  AND MORE RESEARCH (AND LOGIC) ARE SHOWING THE INCREASING NEGATIVE IMPACTS OF PROLONGED STRESS ON OUR HEALTH AND RELATIONSHIPSTHIS IS QUITE CONCERNING IN ALL RESPECT, I WOULD SAY.

SIGNS OF STRESS

NO MATTER HOW TOUGH YOU ARE, THERE IS ALWAYS A POINT WHEN THE WORKLOAD, AND STRESS, BECOMES TOO MUCH. THE RESULTS OF SUCH SITUATIONS ARE NORMALLY A DECLINE IN YOUR HEALTH, PRODUCTIVITY AND EVEN IN YOUR SENSITIVITY TO YOUR PARTNER.
EXCESSIVE/SEVERE STRESS NORMALLY TAKES A BIG TOLL ON OUR VALUED RELATIONSHIPS, UNDERMINING OUR HAPPINESS AND ENDANGERING THE FUTURE OF OUR UNION WITH OUR PARTNERS.THEREFORE, IT IS IMPORTANT THAT WE IDENTIFY SIGNS OF STRESS IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS, AS EARLY AS POSSIBLE, BEFORE DAMAGE IS DONE. 

THESE SYMPTOMS SHOULD SERVE AS INDICATORS THAT STRESS IS WEIGHING IN ON YOUR PERSONAL LIFE

COMMUNICATION FAILS AND DISASTERS

EMOTIONAL STRESS OR ANY OTHER KIND OF STRESS, FOR THAT MATTER, CAN CAUSE YOU TO EASILY LOSE FOCUS, AND INTEREST, IN CONVERSATIONS WITH YOUR PARTNER. THE LACK OF INTEREST CAN ALSO LEAD TO IMPATIENCE. AND WITH IMPATIENCE YOU CAN INADVERTENTLY RUSH TO ASSUMPTIONS AND CONCLUSIONS.
WHEN YOU FIND IT INCREASINGLY DIFFICULT TO HAVE A NORMAL CONVERSATION THAT DOESNT END IN A FIGHT, CHECK YOUR STRESS LEVELS.

HIGH IRRITABILITY AND PEEVISHNESS TOWARDS PARTNER/SPOUSE

STRESS MANAGEMENTTHERE IS NO DENYING IT, ANGRY COUPLES YELLING AT EACH OTHER DOESNT MEAN THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS OVER. BUT COUPLES YELLING AT EACH OTHER EVERY TWO DAYS IS A DIFFERENT STORY ALL TOGETHER.
EXCESSIVE ANGER IS AN EMOTION THAT POISONS GOODWILL AND INSTIGATES HOSTILITY. WHEN YOU EASILY GET IRRITATED FOR NO GOOD REASON, YOU ARE LIKELY TO BE ALLOWING STRESS AFFECT YOUR PERSONAL LIFE. IT IS A SIGN THAT ELEMENTS LIKE STRESS MAY HAVE TAKEN TOO MUCH OF YOUR LIFE.
CONSIDER YOUR STRESS LEVEL.

DOUBTS…… DOUBTS ABOUT THE FUTURE OF THE RELATIONSHIP

CHRONIC STRESS TOPICALLY LEAVES YOU WITH A PESSIMISTIC VIEW OF EVEN THE BEST RELATIONSHIPS.
WHENEVER YOU ARE BEGINNING TO FEEL TIRED OF SEEING YOUR SPOUSES FACE IN THE MORNING, ONE OF THE POSSIBLE REASON WOULD BE THAT YOU ARE UNDERGOING SERIOUS LEVELS OF STRESS. CHRONIC STRESS CAN MAKE YOU UNDERMINE THE VALUE OF A PERSON IN YOU LIFE, AND CAUSE YOU TO MAKE MISTAKES.

THESE, AND SOME OTHER SIGNS, COULD SIGNIFY A HIGH LEVEL OF STRESS IN YOUR LIFE, AND A NEED TO DEAL WITH IT. CHRONIC STRESS CAN ONLY ADVERSELY AFFECT YOUR VALUED RELATIONSHIPS AND LOVED ONES. ACCORDING TO A STUDY BY RESEARCHGATE, COUPLES WHO EXPERIENCED PROLONGED STRESS FEEL LESS COMFORTABLE AND LESS CLOSE WITH EACH OTHER, THAN THOSE WHO EXPERIENCED LESS STRESS. THEY ALSO FEEL LESS SURE OF THE SURVIVAL OF THEIR RELATIONSHIPS.

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HOWEVER, THERE IS STILL HOPE FOR THE FUTURE. THE VERY PRESENCE OF EVIL IN A LAND DOES NOT MEAN THAT THE LAND IS CURSED. THE SAME ANALOGY APPLIES IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. THE FACT THAT YOU ARE STRESSED OUT, AND NOT AS SENSITIVE TO YOUR PARTNER AS BEFORE, DOESNT MEAN THAT THE MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP IS DOOMED TO FAIL. WITH THE RIGHT INFORMATION, IT IS SIMPLY A MATTER OF IDENTIFYING AND PICKING OUT WHAT CAUSES YOU STRESS. AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS WELL ON ITS WAY BACK TO THE HAPPY PLACE YOU DESIRE IT.

CAUSES OF STRESS

STRESS MANAGEMENTIDENTIFYING THE CAUSES OF STRESS, IN YOUR LIFE, IS CRUCIALLY IMPORTANT TO THE SUCCESS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP. IMAGINE YOU FALLING DANGEROUSLY SICK OVER AND OVER AGAIN, AND NEVER BOTHERING TO FIND OUT THE CAUSE OF THE DISEASE. CHANCES ARE, ONE DAY, YOU MIGHT NEVER RECOVER FROM WORST EPISODE OF THE AILMENT; YOU WOULD DIE SICK BECAUSE YOU WERE FIGHTING AN ENEMY BLINDFOLDED. YOU MUST LOCATE THE SOURCE OF THE FIRE.

NEVERTHELESS, ITS SAFE TO SAY THAT THERE IS NO UNIVERSAL TEST FOR LOCATING CAUSES OF STRESS. THIS IS PRIMARILY DUE TO THE FACT THAT PEOPLE RESPOND DIFFERENTLY TO DIFFERENT SITUATIONS.THEREFORE, WHAT I MIGHT CONSIDER TO BE STRESSFUL MIGHT NOT BE SO FOR SOMEBODY ELSE. MEN, FOR EXAMPLES RESPOND DIFFERENTLY FROM WOMEN. HOWEVER, EVEN AMONG MEN, SOME ARE MORE RESISTANT TO CERTAIN LEVELS OF PRESSURE AND STRESS THAN OTHERS.

SADLY, MANY PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES ON THE BASIS OF MISJUDGMENT.
HOWEVER, HERE IS A LIST OF COMMON GROUNDS FOUND AMONG MOST COUPLES;
⦁ FINANCIAL DIFFICULTIES
⦁ NEVER-ENDING CRITICISM
⦁ ARGUMENTS
⦁ FEELING UNHEARD
⦁ DISAGREEMENTS OVER CHORES
⦁ WORK-RELATED PROBLEMS

TELLING THE DIFFERENCE

“WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SIGN OF STRESS AND CAUSES OF STRESS?” YOU MIGHT ASK.

LET’S USE THE ANALOGY OF A SINKING SHIP: THE ALARM SYSTEM ON YOUR LUXURY CRUISER IS ALERTING YOU OF A LEAKAGE IN THE SHIP. HOWEVER, KNOWING THAT THERE IS A PROBLEM DOES NOT FIX IT. YOU STILL NEED TO LOCATE THE HOLE AND SEAL THE BREACH BEFORE THE SHIP SINKS.

IN THE SAME WAY, THE SIGNS OF STRESS ARE YOUR ALARM FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP. BUT YOU STILL HAVE TO LOCATE AND DEAL WITH THE CAUSE OF YOUR STRESS, IF YOU DO NOT WANT YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE TO SINK.

FOR YOUR STRESS MANAGEMENT SKILLS TO BE EFFECTIVE, YOU NEED TO IDENTIFY THOSE TWO FACTORS.

THEREFORE, IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS UNDER SOME DURESS, CHECK OUT THESE PLACES FIRST TO IDENTIFY ANY AS THE SOURCE OF STRESS. IF YOU COME OUT WITH NOTHING, THEN LOOK THROUGH YOUR PERSONAL LIFE TO LOCATE YOUR STRESS. IT IS IMPORTANT TO NOTE THAT YOUR ACTIONS COULD ALSO BE A CAUSE OF STRESS TO YOU SPOUSE/PARTNER. IT MIGHT JUST BE RELATED TO THE NEW SET OF FRIENDS YOU MADE AT THE BAR, OR THE ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATIONS YOU HABITUALLY FORGET.
STRESS MANAGEMENT IS AN ART THAT REQUIRES PRACTICE AND COMPROMISE. ASSESS YOUR ACTIVITIES AND TRY TO LOCATE THE POSSIBLE ONES THAT COULD BE A SOURCE OF STRESS YOU OR YOUR SPOUSE.

STRESS MANAGEMENT IN A RELATIONSHIP

STRESS MANAGEMENTSTRESS MANAGEMENT SOLUTIONS WILL BE FULLY COVERED IN THE NEXT ARTICLE. HOWEVER, HERE ARE A FEW QUICK TIPS TO HOLD UNTO TILL THEN;

  1. COMMIT YOURSELF FULLY TO THE RELATIONSHIP; THAT IS WHEN THE SACRIFICES WILL BE WORTH IT.
  2. BE RESPECTFUL EVEN IF YOU FEEL JUSTIFIED IN YOUR OUTBURST.
  3. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES AND YOUR HEALTH; IT IS ONE WAY TO REDUCE STRESS AND IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
  4. CREATE SPECIAL OCCASIONS TO LIVEN UP YOUR LIVES AND RELATIONSHIP; DONT WAIT FOR THEM TO HAPPEN. MOVIE NIGHTS, A WALK IN THE EVENING, EVEN A SPECIAL MENU FOR DINNER, CAN GO A LONG WAY IN ALLEVIATING STRESS AND INCREASING THE FUN IN THE RELATIONSHIP.
  5. AFFIRM AND REAFFIRM REGULARLY; I LOVE YOU”, IM SORRY”, I MISS YOU”, HELLO SWEETHEART”…….AND SO ON. SIMPLE PHRASES THAT, WHEN SPOKEN SINCERELY AND OFTEN ENOUGH, WILL SOLIDIFY YOUR SPOUSES FAITH AND CONFIDENCE IN YOUR LOVE FOR HIM/HER.

IN ALL, STRESS MANAGEMENT IS PARAMOUNT TO THE SUCCESS OF EVERY RELATIONSHIP. HOWEVER, IF STRESS IS TO BE EFFECTIVELY HANDLED, ITS SOURCE MUST BE IDENTIFIED. AND IT MUST BE DONE BEFORE THE SYMPTOMS EVOLVE TO SOMETHING EVEN MORE UNDESIRABLE.

WHAT DO YOU THINK?

WHAT DO YOU THINK?
WE WOULD LIKE TO HEAR FROM YOU. WHAT DO YOU THINK ARE THE MOST COMMON SYMPTOMS FOUND IN RELATIONSHIPS? DONT FORGET, THE WORLD IS FILLED WITH OVER 7 BILLION PEOPLE. SO YOU MIGHT EVEN HAVE AN DIFFERENT FROM THE ONES ALREADY LISTED BELOW.
WE WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU IN THE COMMENTS SECTION BELOW.

TILL WE MEET AGAIN,
GOD BLESS YOU

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    1. 😲😲😲I AM SO SHOCKED THAT I’VE TAKEN SO LONG TO REPLY THIS COMMENT.😲😲

      I REALLY APOLOGIZE, IPUNA, I WILL DO BETTER NEXT TIME.

      THANKS FOR THE KIND WORDS, BY THE WAY.I REALLY APPRECIATE IT.

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