Mind Minimalism – Life Doesn’t Get Better With Worry

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A friend once told me that life as a student is hard. She then went on to enlighten me about the kind of things that make student life difficult.

Things I already knew because I was also a student!

But, not wanting to kill her flow, I let her rant an hour and half of my time away. When I was certain that she was satisfied with her “presentation”, I asked one simple question.

Has complaining about “student life” made it any easier for you?

From the look on her face, I could tell she was not happy with my response. I get it. She was probably expecting me to console her or perhaps join in the complaining and waste another hour or two.

But that’s not for me. I don’t see the sense behind pointless talk. There’s a difference between complaining so that something can be done about the problem (both by you and your listeners) and just plain ol’ complaints.

Because what’s the point of letting your mind dwell on things that are not useful?

Collaboration With a Purpose – Minimalism

That brings me to our theme for Collaboration With a Purpose in this beautiful month of May.

At its core, minimalism is the intentional promotion of the things we most value and the removal of everything that distracts us from it.

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It is a life that forces intentionality. And as a result, it forces improvements in almost all aspects of your life.

Basically, it’s a way of living that encourages us to focus our attention and effort on things that are of most value to us at every given moment.

Now, many of us might not be full-blown minimalists yet but I believe, one way or another, we are all going about minimizing the loops of our lives.

I’ve heard stories of people having to quit their jobs to be able to take care of their family. We have all had to give up something for another of higher value.

And, in a sense, that’s a good thing.

However, society has managed to ignore one key aspect on which we ought to practice minimalism. The mind.

Mind Minimalism

The one thing that majority of people nowadays seem to be experts at is WORRYING. We spend so much time stressing and placing our minds excessively on one issue after another.

As if the problem is going to be solved just because we took some time to worry about it. That’d be so weird.

“Hey look! Person A has spent a whole week worrying about us. I think we should get going”

said No Problem Ever

Some think that getting like-minded people to join the “worrying” force will make things better.

“Oooo la la. There’s two of them now. We must be famous. Let’s not disappoint the fans. Up, up and away!!”

You can guess who never said that.

I don’t want us to spend potentially productive time worrying about things that we shouldn’t. Hence I want to propose something – Mind Minimalism.

The Idea Behind Mind Minimalism

Mind minimalism, in Jainey terms, refers to intentionally refusing to let our mind dwell on things we are not willing to try and do something about.

Because that would be worrying.

Now some might tell me:

But what if we really cannot do anything about it?

I’ll just use this Q & A analogy to answer you.

Scenario 1

Do you have a problem in your life?

Yes.

Can you do something about it?

Yes.

Then why worry?

 

Scenario 2

Do you have a problem in your life?

Yes.

Can you do something about it?

No.

Then no need to worry.

 

Scenario 3

Do you have a problem in your life?

No.

Then why worry?

 

Moving On

Honestly, it’s as simple as that. Worrying does nothing to improve anything so why take up your mind’s space.

Send it packing.


Say “NO” to worrying. Life doesn’t get better with worry. So, be happy!

Shout out to my fellow collaborators:

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NB: I’ll add to the list as they come.

7 comments

  1. Excellent point of view. You are so wise! I didn’t really gain this perspective until Jy was in the hospital. I was forced to realize how many things in my life didn’t matter. I LOVE this quote by you.
    “Mind minimalism, in Jainey terms, refers to intentionally refusing to let our mind dwell on things we are not willing to try and do something about.”
    We only have so much energy. We just waste energy on things we may not be able to control.
    Have a wonderful weekend!
    Ipuna Black recently posted…Minimalism: What gives you meaning in life?My Profile

  2. I’m with Ipuna all the way, as I loved that quote about mind minimalism.

    Yes, we should not worry. It doesn’t do any good.

    Unfortunately, I am someone afflicted by what I call the “worry monster.” My late husband was a Zen Buddhist, and he gave me a good workaround for this, so I’m going to inflict it on you right now. 😉

    First, fully feel whatever it is that’s bothering you. This could take a minute, five minutes, maybe up to a half an hour in some cases.

    Then, tell yourself, “Self, I have heard you. Now I’m going to go and do what I was going to do anyway.”

    That’s it. That’s the key…don’t deny whatever the worry is, but just move on after you’ve fully felt it (if you’re like me, and that darned worry monster won’t go away.)

    I hope this helps someone out there.

    Loved your post, Jane! 😀

  3. Haha, your post is very brillant and sent me laughing especially on these two points: “Has complaining about ‘student life’ made it any easier for you?” and this one, “Worrying does nothing to improve anything so why take up your mind’s space. Send it packing,” which are very true. Yes, life doesn’t get better with worrying. Let’s just be happy! <3
    Mylene Orillo recently posted…How Grief Taught Me to Keep My Life SimpleMy Profile

  4. You are wise! Liked this quote by the wisest student – Jane, “Mind minimalism, in Jainey terms, refers to intentionally refusing to let our mind dwell on things we are not willing to try and do something about.”
    Laughing out loud on this one- “Hey look! Person A has spent a whole week worrying about us. I think we should get going, said No Problem Ever” Thanks for making all of us laugh and reduce some stress.

  5. Awesome post, Jainey! I love the term you introduced, Mind Minimalism; probably because it touches on the subject of energy, like my post. 😛

    I agree worrying or ranting too much doesn’t really help but many people spend too much time doing so; I once read that we attract what we project, so if we worry / rant so much that we emit negativity, wouldn’t we attract more negativity? I’d think it’s a pretty tiring way to live, to be honest. 😶

    And while I love your line: “Has complaining about student life make you feel better?”, hey, being a student certainly is hard. 😆

    Also, sorry for being so late in reading your post! Let’s just say I got caught up with stuff. Very sorry. 😅

  6. This kind of thinking is really helpful. I was also the kind of student who thinks A LOT and SO MUCH, and that obviously took a toll on me when I was studying. One thing that really changed how I think was when a counselor who visits the class once in a while said this, “Don’t stress about things you cannot control.”–and that changed me. Anyways, this is a really great insight. Cheers to you 🙂

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