Teen age. The intermediary stage between childhood and being an adult. The mid-ground between stories of a possible promising future and that of a unique past. It can be a very trying time – depending on how the person leaving the naivety of childhood comes to terms with the knowledge of what life really holds.
Today, we enter into a semi-public discussion of a group of teenage girls about what it is like to be a woman/lady/girl or as science may like to generally classify this part of society – female.
You know what my Mom told me today? She said I better ‘learn the ups and downs concerning housework – particularly being in the kitchen’. Basically, she said, “if you want to find and maintain a good, caring husband, you better learn how to cook and keep a house clean. And in my mind, I’m like hello? Did we travel back in time or what? This is the 21st Century for crying out loud – not some age where all we ladies care about is finding a good husband.
Well, you know what they say… a woman’s place is at home. It is generally believed that men are the breadwinners of the family and it is our duty as women to take care of the home. That’s the best we can do to contribute to building the family…
I see you’ve been brainwashed, huh. Look at all the nonsense you are spouting… talking about the place of a woman. Who gets the right to determine what we can or cannot do? Have you not heard of all the ladies out there who are making a difference in our world? Ladies with entrepreneurial minds who came up with amazing ideas that even some of the greatest men in our generation and past were not able to. Women like Anne Frank, Suu Kyi, Mother Teresa, Billy Jean King, Florence Nightingale, and Benazir Bhutto (among many others) dedicated their lives to support honorable causes. They are examples of how women can be much more in life.
But if they are proving that women are so much more than just housekeepers, why has society remained this way? In some parts of the world, teenage girls like ourselves are being groomed to be dependent on their spouses (in other words, men) and end up not being able to achieve anything meaningful in life. Then what’s the point of our ancestors fighting for the cause of girls receiving the equal education that guys do? I mean, since all we seem to be worth is being housewives, why bother?
You guys are probably right but have you considered the perspective of people such as myself? My dad’s job is very demanding and he often has to work late hours and Mom’s job requires her to travel a lot. So, right from 4 years old, the only time I can get us to eat together as a family is during the work holidays – that is if they don’t decide to work overtime. I mean, my Granny has been more of a parental figure to me that my biological ones. I believe that’s one reason the need came to choose at least one “parent” to stay behind and let the other do all earning work. In this case, it is generally understood that women are more capable of handling the stress that comes with this job description.
And again another unfortunate brainwashed teen. Why have you decided to come to terms with that? Who told you only women can handle it? Have you not of stay-at-home dads – some of whom are doing a much better job in that role than many women? How about the kids? Are you saying that they only need a mother’s love and attention? I totally respect women who sacrifice their career in order to properly raise their kids (i.e. housewives). They are doing a great job (it is a rewarding and important role). My issue is with the ideology that it is all we are worth. Listen.. both parties have a hand to play in the building up of the family. If only society can understand this and stop dumping all the load on us ladies.
I agree with you. Honestly, a majority of these things came to mind when my Mom made that statement. I actually took some time to craft my answer because I needed her to understand that although we are women/girls, and that cooking and good housekeeping are handy skills to have, we also have big dreams and should be allowed to do the great things that we are capable of.
Alright, that’s all for today. Let’s leave our ladies to continue their discussion. Although, we were only able to hear from five out of over twenty girls partaking in the discussion; I believe we will have another opportunity to eavesdrop another time.
If you want to learn more about the impact the ladies mentioned in the discussion made in our world, be sure to view the picture below that I made.
Shout out to my fellow collaborators:
- Barb Caffrey: A Woman’s Work Is…Everything?
- Ipuna Black: Collaboration with a Purpose: Dedicated to Women Worldwide
- Nicolle K.: Collaboration with a Purpose: Dedicated to Women – Issues Women Face Today
- Sadaf Siddiqi: Celebrating Women Worldwide
- Tajwar Fatma: Let’s practice Women’s Day
- Mylene C. Orillo: To All Women Who Made a Difference in My Life
- Sonyo Estavillo: #InternationalWomensDay: 10 Interesting Female Facts You Might Not Know! #PressforProgress
- Divyang Shah: Women In Life
- Swati Kadam: Womenarrior
- Jane Love: Thoughts of 21st Century Teen Girls on a Woman’s Role in Society Today
NB: I’ll add to the list as they come.
I’ll also like to include this article – 10 International Women’s Day Quotes by Candace N. Bisram.
Finally, closing remarks from my poetic role model – Robert Varga (he doesn’t even know I included him) –