The Need to Reflect

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It almost the end of the year. Am I the only one who thinks this year flew past so quickly? 😆 😆  Many of us have had happy memories and some of us sad. But all in all, I’m sure we all agree that it’s been a beautiful year so far. 😍

Reflections of 2017

There are quite a number of key points I would refer to as the highlights of the year but I will focus on just a few.

  • February 2017

This month marked the start of Harmonious Joy. It was an still is an awesome experience. It opened pathways for me to meet other amazing personalities in the blogosphere.

Harmonious Joy, to me, is MORE than just a blog. It’s sort of like an extension of who I am and what I have to share with the world. It enables me to do one of my most favorite things – teaching and sharing of knowledge. And it’s an honor for me to be on this journey with two of my brother and this lovely community we have built.

  • May 2017

Spoiler Alert!! This month will always be a highlight because I get to celebrate the major superstar in my life in a grander style. My mom, as I will always say, is my most cherished treasure and I’d do everything I can to keep her happy.

So Mom had been complaining about her phone giving her issues and so my siblings and I got together and bought her a brand new and even better phone in addition to her surprise birthday bash.

But that’s not even why this month’s a highlight. Instead, it was the wide smile she had at the end of it all. 😁😁

  • October 2017

A friend once told me – “Ever since I’ve known you, it seems like you’ve always been 16”. 😂😂 In a sense, that’s true. I think I grow slowly.😂😂

At least, now his statement will no longer be true!! Yipee yipee, hurray! 😂😂

  • And many others

There are a lot of things I could talk about but, according to the agenda I have for this post, I think I’ll just move on now. 😜😜

How has 2017 changed me?

This year, I have gotten exposed to many unique perspectives and natures. I used to be one who makes friends wholeheartedly. And if the “friend” should pull away or betray me, I’d pretend I didn’t care but probably wouldn’t talk to him/her again for about a year or two.😅

However, I’ve come to learn to forgive more easily and to never let anything interfere with my joy and positivity. I discovered that friendship is something to be treasured and not thrown away when one feels like it.

So, this year, I really have gone all out (more than the last year) to build strong and reliable friendships that can stand the test of time. And, to be honest, my greatest gift when it comes to friendship is the Talking Company. These individuals have really helped encourage and motivate me into becoming the best that I can. We should get together again sometime, guys. 😍

Another great gift I’ve acquired this year is the Twin Confederation of cray cray queens!! Woo hoo! 😂😂 They are simply the best.

The Key Lesson 2017 Taught Me

If there’s one key thing I have learned from this year, it would be the importance and need to reflect.

Reflection is important because it serves as a medium for one to improve oneself. It helps you recognize your weaknesses and strengths. As well as developing ways to make your strengths stronger and transform your weaknesses into strength.

How Does One Reflect?

Have a Vision / Goal / Objective

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.

Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.

– Steve Jobs

For you to be able to reflect effectively, you have to have a vision, goal or objective. What do you want to achieve this upcoming year or months? How soon do you want to achieve it? Where do you see yourself in 2018?

That way, when the time you’ve given yourself is up, you can reflect and acknowledge what you HAVE accomplished and see whether you have to change strategies. Take a day to set “time-based goals” for yourself and then…

… Make Plans in Line With Your Vision

Our time is like jam, the more you try to spread it, the thinner it gets. We need to be realistic about the amount of time we have available.

But, in addition to that thought, we know full well that we all have the same amount of time. You can’t make minutes any longer than sixty seconds, nor can you make one hour longer than sixty minutes.

So, is there more to the problem than how we spread it?

By all means no. The only issue is not knowing which objective to focus more time on and when that particular one must be done.

Take Subsequent Actions

It’s not just enough making plans, you have to act upon your plans. It’s very important. Failure to act on your plans will result in they never becoming  accomplishments.

And Finally… Reflect

Every now and then, take time off to measure your progress. There’s nothing wrong with doing this frequently (unless in some cases – it would take a while to see results. for example, weight loss). If you wait for too long, you’ll just put unnecessary pressure on yourself.

Why do you think sport games have breaks in-between? These breaks enable the team to regroup, check how their current game strategy is working out and see whether or not it should be changed.

In the same way, we must learn to regroup and improve.

Case Study: Reflection Pointers from NaNoWriMo

We can learn a few things from this awesome writing event. Those who aren’t too familiar with NaNoWriMo, it stands for National Novel Writing Month and happens every November. It’s where anyone and everyone who participates writes 50,000 words of a novel in a month! And if you do some quick math, each participant has to write about 1,667 words a day.

The Goal?

The ultimate goal would be the 50k words target whereas the short-term goals would be the daily 1500+ word count. Some people don’t believe they can go that far and often set smaller targets for themselves. Hence, in that case, your ultimate goal would be your final target and your short-term goals would be your daily objectives.


“There’s never enough time to do all the nothing you want.”
― Bill Watterson

In other words, if you really want something, you MAKE time for it. So you set time aside each day dedicated for writing your 1500+ words. AND discipline yourself to stick to the time given.


After the first week, check the progress you’ve made. If it is up to par, keep it up. If not, you may have to change strategies in order to meet your goal.

So you see – the need to reflect applies to almost everything in life.

A new year is around the corner bringing with it another set of 365 days full of opportunities. Make good use of each day and don’t forget to keep reflecting.

Shout out to my fellow collaborators:

NB: I’ll add to the list as they come.


  1. 17 years old but, when it comes to writing you can anytime beat a 100 year old. The jam and cricket examples were what I really liked. Even the words of steve jobs were so effective.

  2. Haha, you’re not the only one who feels like time really flies! I feel like I left myself somewhere at the mid-year mark. 😆

    I love the way you looked at 2017 as a whole, like what you liked about it and how it changed you! And also how you used NaNoWriMo as an example to reflect. 😀

    Also, I think it’s interesting that we started blogging around the same time! Great STC twin minds think alike? 😛

  3. I thought the quotes were great, and enjoyed the NaNo examples, too.

    Sorry it took me a bit to comment; have been under the weather. But I am very, very happy to let you know I read this, I enjoyed it, and I look forward to reading your blog next year — and to collaborating with you, too! (Along with the Collab with a Purpose group, of course.)

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