Why You Should Love Yourself

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When I first saw this theme, the first thought that came to mind was to speak on ways one can go about loving themselves and accepting their unique contributions to our world. I worked on that angle in my mind for a while – certain that it was my take on the theme.

A few days later, as I was having a chat with one of my brothers, a new idea popped up. I embraced it and explored it further with the help of my brother. And made up my mind to write from that new angle.

So, I’ve decided to cover “why” we should learn to love ourselves and embrace who we are. That being said – I present to you:

Collaboration with A Purpose – Self Love and Acceptance

These two terms are related in some way. Self-love refers to the regard for one’s own well-being and happiness and Self-acceptance is an individual’s satisfaction or happiness with oneself and involves self-understanding, a realistic awareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses.

These two have become the talk of the town. Nowadays, you can easily come across articles on:

  • Loving yourself
  • how to love yourself
  • How to go about self-acceptance
  • and so many others

Yet I’ve come across many people who don’t seem to know of any reason WHY they should love themselves. They have been made aware that they should but some still don’t understand WHY.

Well, here are three reasons why you should love yourself.

1. You Are Loved

Whether you believe it or not, I love you as Christ loved me. And I’m not just saying this for the sake of it. It’s just that it’s in my nature to demonstrate the love of God that’s alive in me.

But you know who else loves you? God does… no matter what. He loves you for who you are. And not necessarily what you’ve done or what you look like.

Want more? You are also loved by family and close friends. Your friends stay friends with you because of your unique personality. You mean the world to your family

We all believe in your ability to achieve great heights in life and are constantly cheering you on. But we’re not asking for anything in return except that you be the best you can be.

You now know that people love you just the way you are. So, why not love yourself?

2. You Are Unique

I have shared a poem by a young lady who speaks on her self-acceptance. She had problems coming to accept herself for who she is because she once used to value herself according to other people’s perspective. But not anymore.

It’s not my weakness,
it is my openness.
It’s not my doubts,
it is my questioning mind.

It’s not that I say too much,
it’s my courage to share.
It’s not my fear,
it’s my prudence.

It’s not my stupidity,
it’s my choice of what I
want to know.
It’s not my credulity,
it is my trust.

It’s not my depression,
it is my acceptance.
It’s not my recklessness,
it is my curiosity,
and love of life.

It’s not my chaos,
it’s my artistic soul.
It’s not my weakness,
it is my

Liliana Kohann

A Mother’s Advice

A little girl once asked her mother as they sat on the beach admiring the sunset.

“Mom, will I be pretty? Will I be pretty?”

“No!” her mother replied. “The word ‘pretty’ is unworthy of everything you will be, and no child of mine will be contained in five letters”

At this, tears began to form in the young girl’s eyes. Smiling, her mother reached out and placed her hand on her daughter’s cheek.

“You will be pretty intelligent, pretty creative, pretty amazing. But you will never be merely ‘pretty’. Never forget that”

There’s Nothing Wrong With You

There’s a great depth of truth in her mother’s words. Many people value themselves according to outward appearances and what people have to say. They limit themselves to just that. But they fail to understand that they are worth much more.

You are no more or less privileged than anyone else. Each person is unique in his/her own way. You may seem to be better than a friend at a skill but he’s definitely much better at another.

You don’t have to learn to love yourself. Only remember that there was nothing wrong with you, to begin with.

When Jesus was baptized, God spoke to the people present saying “This is my beloved Son of whom I am well pleased”.

Outwardly, there was nothing to show the truth in these words. I mean, he was just the carpenter’s son to everyone present. What’s this about being a “Son of God”?

And yet, as the years passed, they began to see signs and proof of the uniqueness God spoke of.

How come?

3. You Have a Purpose

This is because Jesus knew he was created for a purpose. And despite what others saw, he chose to believe only what God said about it. Thus, he walked accordingly.

He did not allow the scorn bestowed by others to bring him down. Jesus loved himself because he knew his purpose – he had a task to accomplish.

You were created for a purpose. Some of us were called to be:

  • writers to spread encouragement with our works
  • dancers to bring life to a place with our moves
  • doctors to help save lives,
  • motivational speakers to inspire individuals to be the best they can be,
  • teachers to spread forth wisdom,
  • and so much more potentials.

Whatever it is, the only way you can make progress on the path of your purpose is to mix your determination with a bit of self-love and acceptance. Because unless you believe in yourself, you will never have the courage to take the first step.

Jesus believed in himself (a demonstration of self-love) and accepted that he was a unique person. Why can’t you?


So, love yourself and walk with confidence. The world hasn’t seen someone like you yet. You have so much to offer. If you want to be truly happy, step up and shine like the star you are.

Shout out to my fellow collaborators:

NB: I’ll add to the list as they come.


  1. I believe taking the first step towards self-respect is accepting ourselves the way that we are and loving ourselves despite our flaws. You make a valid point to be aware of realistic expectations of our strengths and knowing our weaknesses.

  2. Your article got me to thinking, more than how, WHY do we really need to love ourselves? Sometimes we tend to forget those reasons you’ve provided. Kudos to your brother for helping you come up with this angle. And thank you for reminding us that we need to love ourselves because Christ loves us for who we are, no matter what… and thank you for your poems. I love it.

  3. Wow Janie! Reading through your words was like rediscovering the scripture and also a reflection of how strong a person you are.
    The story of the little girl and her mother was moving.
    Like mentioned here……no beautiful creation of God should be limited to just a word in our dictionaries.

  4. Hey Janie, love the love of Christ that you displayed in your writing. We are worthy of love. You said, “we have a Purpose” Indeed, Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Thank you for taking time to show how much we should accept ourselves as our creator has made us. 🌹

    1. I love that verse! Especially how it continues in verse 36/37 that “I am persuaded that neither life nor death, nor angels, principalities nor power, nor things that are now, nor things that are to come, can separate us from the love of Christ!” Thanks for your astute comment.

      P.S. Sorry it took me this long to reply.

  5. “You are loved” – This is so true! I never used to love myself but over time I’ve learnt to love myself and knowing that God loves me no matter what helps with that. Granted there are times I need to remind myself of that but for the most part, I love myself and it’s made a huge difference in my life.

    1. Yes that’s good. Keep loving yourself because you’re one of a kind and don’t let anyone tell you anything different. Thanks for reading!

      P.S. Sorry it took me this long to reply.

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